In The Community

Community – Week of November 19, 2021

November 19, 2021 – 16 Kislev 5782

ATTENTION: The Eruv is down for this Shabbos As of publication (Thursday, November 18), the Eruv is DOWN for this Shabbos. Please verify its availability weekly at 314-863-1811.

Candle Lighting 4:27 pm
Shabbos Concludes 5:29 pm

Parshas Vayishlach 

Genesis 32:4 – 36:43
Obadiah 1:1 – 1:21 

Stone Chumash pp. 170 – 197
Stone Chumash pp. 1141-1142


Erev Shabbos, Friday, November 19, 2021

  • 4:25 pm Mincha, Kabbalat Shabbat, Ma’ariv
  • 4:27 pm Candle Lighting

Shabbos, Saturday, November 20, 2021

  • 9:00 am Shachris followed by Musaf
  • 4:10 pm Mincha, Shalosh Seudos, Ma’ariv
  • 5:29 pm Shabbos concludes

 Thank You for Leading Services 

  • Pesukei D’Zimra: Howard Sandler
  • Shacharis: Rabbi Avi Okin
  • Leyning: Stuart Klamen
  • Haftorah:
  • Stuart Klamen
  • Sermon: Rabbi Ze’ev Smason
  • Musaf: Rabbi Avi Okin

Call for Minyanim

Your attendance is needed, please. Check in with Rabbi Smason and find a time when you can help. There is no such thing as too many people attending a minyan. We hope you will join us, soon and often! If you would like to receive SMSM reminders for your minyan attendance, please send the following information to Name; cell number, and carrier; and times for which you would like reminders.

Ask our Rabbis! 

What is the meaning behind……? Why did my Grandmother always…..? Can you offer a deeper meaning to…..? 

Whatever the question, our Rabbis are here to answer! You may email your questions directly to Rabbi Smason at or contact the rabbis directly. You can also send in a note using the form below, name and email are optional. Let’s make the most out of these learned teachers! 

Ask Our Rabbis 

Q: We see that a number of men in Tenach had multiple wives, including Abraham and Jacob. Is polygamy still permissible in Judaism?

A. On the Biblical level, there is no issue with a man being married to more than one woman. There are a number of caveats that our Rabbis add to this allowance. The first is the husband must make sure that he takes care of each wife properly. This means that each wife receives food, clothing, and attention from her husband (Yevamos 65a). Moreover, the husband must receive permission to marry additional women from his current wives (Maaseh Rekach). Chazal also do not recommend the concept, as marrying additional women can increase strife in the home.

Polygamy is not currently practiced because Rabbeinu Gershom Ben Yehudah banned the practice of polygamy for Ashkenazim in the year 1000 CE for a number of reasons. First, it was instituted to prevent people from taking advantage of their wives (Rashba). Second, it was intended to avoid potential infighting between rival wives (Mordechai). Third, Rabbi Gershom was concerned lest the husband be unable to provide properly for all his wives (Maharam mi- Padua). Sefardim do not have the same ban, although the practice has fallen out of practice.

Congregation News

SHABBOS MORNINGS KIDS’ PROGRAMS: Every Shabbos, from 10:00 am until Kiddush is served, NHBZ offers programs for elementary and middle school students. Program content is personally designed and coordinated by Rabbi Okin. Families do NOT need to be members of NHBZ to participate. RSVPs appreciated. See you Shabbos!

Mazel Tov on Simchas for the Week of September 23 – October 2, 2021


Evan Garmaise – November 21
Dr. Erol Amon – November 22
Dr. Alan Brook – November 22
Jay Umansky – November 25
Sandra Greenberg – November 27
Shirley Hollander – November 27




Coming Soon

  • Thursday, November 25 – Thanksgiving Parent/Child Learning & Gratitude Program
  • Sunday, December 5 – Family Chanukah Party
  • Sunday, December 12 – 116th Anniversary Event LIVE & In-Person at the Clayton Plaza


  • Online Classes
  • Every Shabbos, 9:15 am – Learners Service with Rabbi David
  • Every Shabbos, 10:00 am – Shabbos Morning Kids’ Program
  • Every Shabbos, 10:15 am Starting Points with Rabbi Smason
  • Every Monday, 8:00 pm – St. Louis Kollel Amud-A-Week
  • Every Wednesday, 12:15 pm – Pirkei Avos Class with Rabbi Smason
  • Every Thursday, 7:30 pm – Mishmar Learning with Rabbi Okin
  • Every Sunday, 9:00 – Teen Schmooze with Rabbi Okin

This Week (Nov 13–15)

November 13th 2nd Annual Havdalathon – Light the Night! Motzai Shabbos (Saturday Night) 6:30 pm. Check for details! RSVPs help us plan ahead.

November 14thAnnual Membership Meeting/Election of Officers Sunday, on Zoom. The link will be mailed and emailed to members.

November 15th – “14 Days Living in Eshkol, Israel” Monday

Havdalathon Light the Night in the Glow of Success!

We had a wonderful turnout (3 rabbis and almost 30 people) and enjoyed sharing the beauty of Havdalah ceremony. (Great flyer, Bexley Lyss!) The music was particularly fun (thanks, Rabbi Shmuel Miller!), and some inspiring creations came out of the activities. Alan & Vivian Zarkowsky and Allan Swan made sure that hot delicious pizza (and ice cream) was had by all! Thanks to Anna Rose Tendler for having everything we needed on hand, and to Teretha Carter, for greeting everyone and doing the things that keep our house a home. Thanks to everyone who joined the fun and made the event a success!

Thanksgiving Morning – Special Teen Schmooze (Parents Invited!) 8:45 am

NHBZ invites you to join a special Parent-Child Teen Schmooze beginning at 8:45 am on Thanksgiving morning.

Explore the Jewish concept of Gratitude over a delicious breakfast.

Express your thanks to our local first responders by writing thank you letters that will be delivered with the annual NHBZ Kosher Thanksgiving meal.

Youth Programming 

Shabbos Morning Kids’ Program, Shabbos 

NHBZ offers Shabbos morning programs for elementary and middle school students. Programs are offered every Shabbos, from 10:00 am until Kiddush is served. All program content will be personally designed and coordinated by Rabbi Okin. Families do NOT need to be members of NHBZ to participate. Please contact Rabbi Okin at with any questions. See you on Shabbos! 

Teen Schmooze, Sundays 

Teen Schmooze”, a special opportunity just for teens in an informal group setting, is now underway. This program meets every Sunday – middle school students start at 9:00 am, and high school students at 9:30 am. Join us on the patio at the back of the NHBZ Sanctuary. Breakfast will be served! For details, contact Rabbi Okin at


In the Community

Staenberg Building
Mens’ Winter use of the Mikvah will be Fridays, 1:00-3:00 pm. Please contact them with any questions.

JSU 19th Annual Gala (Virtual Event) December 5
The Jewish Student Union (JSU) pays tribute to Dr. Jay Pepose & Dr. Susan Feigenbaum and Mr. Bob Hardcastle for all they have done to strengthen the St. Louis Jewish Community, its youth in particular. Please visit For more information, please contact or call Rabbi Mike at 314-498-6279.

St. Louis Kollel Amud-A-Week at NHBZ

Mondays, 8:00 p.m. All men are welcome! See flyer for additional locations and details.

Kosher Thanksgiving for First Responders is ON!

Once again, NHBZ will show its gratitude to our Olivette Police and Firefighters for their superior service. We will provide a traditional Thanksgiving dinner (Kosher, of course) to those who are on call or at the station for the Holiday. Please call Stella Vladimirov at (314) 540-4450 any day after 6 pm with questions.

On-going Covid Guidelines Shul Policy

NHBZ requires that all people attending tefila (prayer services), classes, or other NHBZ programs and activities show proof of vaccination. You may show your vaccination card to Rabbi Smason whenever convenient for you both, or on Shabbos as you enter the shul. Once you have shown Rabbi Smason your vaccination card, there is no need to do so again. 

If we have no proof of vaccination, you are welcome to join Shabbos services from the Kaiser Terrace on the West side of the synagogue. You are also welcome to enter the synagogue to ask a question of the rabbis and staff, conduct business in the office, pick up or leave an item, or for any other reason that might last for a brief period of time. 

Masks are required of all inside attendees, age 3 and older; masks are strongly encouraged for those outside, too. Children aged 13 and older have the same vaccination requirements as adults. 

Here’s to good health, peace, and prosperity. With our efforts and cooperation, may we help end this pandemic.

Learning at NHBZ

Parashas Vayishlach – By Rabbi Smason

Jacob and his family returned from the house of Laban to the land of Israel, only to find Esau heading toward them with 400 men, ready for battle. After preparing his family for war and praying to G-d for help, Jacob attempts to appease his brother by sending him a gift of many animals. After his family crosses the river to await the meeting with Esau, Jacob is left alone for an all-night ‘confrontation’ with an angel disguised as a man. Although Jacob is victorious, he is left limping from a hip-dislocation. Rejoining his family, Jacob encounters Esau who accepts him with an apparent new-found brotherly love. Jacob and Esau part ways in peace. Another crisis arises when Jacob’s daughter Dinah is abducted and raped by Shechem, the prince of a town with the same name. Two of Jacob’s sons, outraged at the humiliation caused to their sister, trick the town’s residents into circumcising themselves on the condition that they would then be allowed to intermarry with Jacob’s family. Simeon and Levi (two sons of Jacob) then decimate the entire city and save Dinah. Later in the portion, G-d blesses Jacob and gives him the additional name, Israel. Soon after, Rachel dies while giving birth to Benjamin, Jacob’s twelfth son. Finally, Jacob returns home and is reunited with his father Isaac. The Torah portion concludes with a lengthy genealogy of Esau’s family.

Rabbi Smason’s Starting Points

Join Rabbi Smason for a 45-minute presentation/discussion of relevant, contemporary topics every Shabbos at 10:15 am in the Feigenbaum-Pepose Multi-Purpose Room.

Upcoming topics:

November 6 – Living with Fascination
November 13 – The Antidote to Boredom
November 20 – Thanksgiving: An Attitude of Gratitude
November 27 – Chanukah: Do Miracles Still Happen?

Rabbi Smason’s Wednesday In-Person Class

Same place, same time, same health and safety rules.

NHBZ Mishmar 

Join Rabbi Okin and young men from all over St. Louis for Mishmar, an evening gathering of Torah and Camaraderie on Thursday Nights from 7:00 pm – 7:30 pm. We will meet indoors at the back of the NHBZ sanctuary with a text-based and interactive learning session. If you are interested, please contact Rabbi Okin at

Rabbi Smason’s Shabbos Shoutout & Rabbi Okin’s Torah Thoughts

These along with other NHBZ videos can be found here: ttps://

Rabbi David’s Learners’ Service 

Every Shabbos at 9:15 am. Just starting out? No worries. Rabbi David teaches the basics of Shabbos prayers. 

Rabbi Smason’s Starting Points 

Join Rabbi Smason for a 45-minute presentation/discussion of relevant, contemporary topics every Shabbos at 10:15 am in the Feigenbaum-Pepose Multi-Purpose Room.

November 20 Thanksgiving: An Attitude of Gratitude
November 27 Chanukah: Do Miracles Still Happen

Rabbi Smason’s Wednesday In-Person Class

Please Note: No Class Wednesday, November 24th, 2021

We’re Having a Chanukah Party! – Volunteers and Sponsors Needed

Dust off your dreidels, it’s PARTY TIME!! Sunday, December 5, 12:00 – 3:00 pm
There are a limited number of seats, and NO walk-ins, so RSVP before Sunday, November 21. (Costs increase after 11/21/21). Please see attached flyer for all of the details.

Sponsorships available, $54 – $360.
We also need VOLUNTEERS for the event itself:

  • Set up (the evening before, after Shabbos)
  • Registration/Receiving Table (no money will change
    hands, just checking the RSVP list!)
  • Kitchen food preparation and Clean up
    Please call (314-991-2100, ext. 2) or email ( with your sponsorship or how you would like to volunteer.